Who needs a Dating Coach?
In my experience, there are 9 types of guys that typically need help from a dating coach like myself. Most of these guys are really great guys, but there are some missing ingredients that keep them from having the dating life of their dreams. Which one are you?
The Busy Bee - This guy has been so focused on his career and achieving success, that maybe he hasn’t given much thought to how he appears to other people, especially women. He has no idea about style, doesn’t like to go shopping, wears whatever style of clothes he wore back in college and puts on whatever he picks up off the floor without much thought. Maybe his hair is unkept or his hands are dirty because he’s always busy with stuff. He’s not a bad guy, but just clueless about how to dress and carry himself in order to attract women.
The Shy Guy - this is the guy who’s typically sweet and quiet. He doesn’t generally socialize with many people, let alone attractive women. He’s the one who stammers and is at a loss for words whenever he meets someone knew. He may suffer a touch of insecurity and wants to learn how to talk to anyone, especially the women of his dreams. And if he does connect with women, he ends up in the “Friend Zone”
The Intelligent Guy - this guy is the brainiac who loves to discuss politics, science, world affairs and any other topic that stimulates his intellect. He generally takes conversations too seriously and has trouble engaging in witty banter, or even basic flirting. He finds himself on dates, either trying to test just how smart she is compared to him, or boring her to death with facts. He wants to be with an equally intelligent woman, but knows that being too serious too early on is a total turn off, even to the smartest of women.
The "Virgin" - This is the guy who lacks sexual confidence, maybe because he was married for a long time and has only been with one woman, or because he’s tried to get intimate with partners before, but because they weren’t wholly satisfying experiences, he doesn’t feel like he knows what he’s doing and is slightly intimidated to go out on dates or get intimate because he’s made such a big deal out of sex, which makes him awkward.
Mr. Cool - this guy is the one that’s confident in every area of his life, except love. He’s successful, funny, great with his friends and knows he brings a lot to the table. He may not even have trouble chatting with women or going out on a lot of dates. But, what’s missing for this guy, is attracting the women he really wants. He may go out a lot, but it’s with women he doesn’t really feel are a good fit for him, or who are only open to superficial relationships. This guy really wants to find love, but when he finally meets a woman he thinks he could spend his life with, his insecurities get in the way and keep him from truly pursuing her and having the happy relationship he desires.
The Wounded Soldier - this guy has had a serious relationship or two before, but it didn’t work out and left him shattered. He feels broken, hurt, confused and like he doesn’t know if he can put himself out there again. He knows he doesn’t want to spend the rest of his life alone, but because he’s still putting the pieces of his broken heart together, he is just feeling too burned to out there and date with any real enthusiasm. He ends up going out on dates with great girls, only to push them away with too many stories about his crazy ex.
Mr. Miser - this guy is very financially successful, but is never sure if women like him for him or just for his money. So, even when he meets a woman he likes and who seems to like him, he is always doubtful, in the back of his mind, if she really has feelings for him. He truly wants a real connection, but can’t seem to let go of his fear of being used.
The Pauper - this guy is not financially successful and doesn’t feel like he is able to date the women he wants, because he not in a position to take care of both of them. He has a great personality and a lot to offer, but is concerned that money is the only thing women care about. So he’s reluctant to go on dates, because he knows that going “dutch” is a total turn off.
The Quitter - this guy could be any one of (or a combination of or all of) the above. He’s tried dating and failed. He’s doing online dating and striking out. He feels like he’s tried everything he knows how to do, or his kind (but clueless) friends have told him to try and he’s still not successful. He hates being lonely, but is just so frustrated with his results to date, he’s about ready to give up. He doesn’t want to, because being in love is important to him, but he’s at wit’s end and doesn’t know where else to turn.
Do any of these sound familiar? If so, that’s the bad news. Most guys are really wonderful but because they’re wrestling with any one of these roadblocks, they’re at a painful impasse.
But the good news is, is that there are professionals like myself out there, who understand what you’re going through and have a whole box full of tools to help you break through it!
How? You’re wondering?
Well first and foremost - My job is to be on your side. I genuinely want to help you to achieve your goals and will use all the tools in my box to help you get there.
I am your sounding board when you feel like you have no one else to talk to - dating can be frustrating and even embarrassing. It’s tough to talk to guy friends about, even harder with your family and a total taboo to discuss with the women you want. You daren’t talk about it to just anyone, so who else is there for you to turn to?
I will hold you accountable - once you’ve shared your goals with me, I can help you set a deadline and do your best to keep you in action around achieving it.
I will give you homework - it’s not just enough to know how to do something, but to be able to do it. With take-away assignments, after every session, I will set you out in the world with a set of tasks and skills to exercise in the real world.
I will help you keep your head in the game - Rejection is tough. Failure is tougher. Being patient is toughest. It’s easy to give up when the going gets hard, but I am there to remind you how awesome you are, how committed you are and keep you going no matter what
I can see what you’re too close notice - everyone of us has blind spots that keep us from achieving what we want in life. As your coach, I am there to reveal those blind spots and help you work through them in order to get out of your own way.
I can give you a woman’s perspective on things, from how your date went to what women really want when it comes to being seduced. I will share feminine secrets with you and the tips that women wish you knew.
